{"id":39126,"date":"2019-12-20T13:08:55","date_gmt":"2019-12-20T11:08:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/gestaltvida.com\/de-parlar-en-primera-persona-i-aquestes-coses\/"},"modified":"2020-05-01T18:24:38","modified_gmt":"2020-05-01T16:24:38","slug":"de-parlar-en-primera-persona-i-aquestes-coses","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gestaltvida.com\/ca\/de-parlar-en-primera-persona-i-aquestes-coses\/","title":{"rendered":"De parlar en primera persona I aquestes coses."},"content":{"rendered":"<style type=\"text\/css\"><\/style><p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">L&#8217;altre dia vaig fer una sessi\u00f3 de ter\u00e0pia de parella.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0Era una parella que estava a un punt molt dif\u00edcil de la seva relaci\u00f3.\u00a0<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0Des del primer minut que van entrar per la porta de la consulta la tensi\u00f3 es podia tallar amb un ganivet.<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 Ganivets que van comen\u00e7ar a volar en el minut dos de sessi\u00f3.<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 M&#8217;entristeix molt veure que dues persones que van crear una fam\u00edlia enlla\u00e7ant anteriors i a m\u00e9s a m\u00e9s han tingut un fill en com\u00fa, puguin insultar-se, menysprear-se i agredir-se verbalment d&#8217;aquella manera.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">\u00a0 \u00a0Nom\u00e9s \u00fas dir\u00e9 que aquella tarda vaig haver de plegar abans de la feina i relaxar-me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">\u00a0 \u00a0No \u00e9s la primera vegada que en passa, temps enrere f\u00e8iem ter\u00e0pia de parella amb una altra companya. Co-ter\u00e0pia es diu, \u00e9s m\u00e9s dif\u00edcil per\u00f2 m\u00e9s equilibrada.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">\u00a0 Sort que \u00e9rem dos!, va faltar ben poc perqu\u00e8 la parella que eren els nostres clients arrib\u00e9ssim a les mans!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">\u00a0 Aquests s\u00f3n casos extrems, no s\u00f3n habituals.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">\u00a0 El que si \u00e9s habitual\u00a0es\u00a0que la majoria de discussions de parella tenen un denominador com\u00fa:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">\u00a0 \u00a0L&#8217;altre \u00e9s el responsable del meu malestar<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">\u00a0 \u00a0Aix\u00f2 pot\u00a0ser\u00a0xocant perqu\u00e8 moltes persones dirien que \u00f2bviament, l&#8217;altre \u00e9s el causant del meu malestar, per aix\u00f2 estic malament, l&#8217;altre m&#8217;ha fet tal i\u00a0qual\u00a0cosa i per\u00a0aix\u00f2\u00a0jo estic aix\u00ed de fotut o fotuda.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">\u00a0 \u00a0El cas \u00e9s que, curiosament, l&#8217;altre component de la parella tamb\u00e9 t\u00e9 la mateixa percepci\u00f3, no \u00e9s ell o ella, \u00e9s l&#8217;altre el causant del meu malestar.\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Comen\u00e7ant perqu\u00e8 en aquest moment:<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">\u00a0 \u00a0&#8220;ell o ella est\u00e0 mentint i diu que s\u00f3c jo el o la culpable, quan\u00a0es clar que no s\u00f3c jo, ets tu!&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">\u00a0 \u00a0En aquest intercanvi d&#8217;acusacions es fa servir el &#8220;tu&#8221; en el di\u00e0leg&#8230; &#8220;Tu\u00a0em fas, tu ets, tu dius, etc. &#8220;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">\u00a0 \u00a0I tots dos eviten assumir la responsabilitat que tenen en el seu propi malestar i en el de l&#8217;altre.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">\u00a0 \u00a0Un primer pas per revertir la situaci\u00f3 \u00e9s parlar en primera persona, fer servir el jo:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">\u00a0 \u00a0&#8220;Jo em sento &#8230;. quan tu dius, o fas tal o\u00a0qual\u00a0cosa&#8221;<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">\u00a0 \u00a0&#8220;a mi em passa &#8230; quan\u00a0tu dius o\u00a0fas, etc.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">\u00a0 \u00a0\u00c9s un primer pas, res de l&#8217;altre mon, sembla&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">\u00a0 \u00a0Proveu de fer-ho la pr\u00f2xima vegada en alguna discussi\u00f3 de parella.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif;\">\u00a0 \u00a0No \u00e9s tan f\u00e0cil com sembla, l&#8217;autom\u00e0tic \u00e9s un altre.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>L&#8217;altre dia vaig fer una sessi\u00f3 de ter\u00e0pia de parella. \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0Era una parella que estava a un punt molt dif\u00edcil de la seva relaci\u00f3.\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0Des del primer minut que van entrar per la porta de la consulta la tensi\u00f3 es podia tallar amb un ganivet. \u00a0 \u00a0 Ganivets que van comen\u00e7ar&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[858],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/gestaltvida.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39126"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/gestaltvida.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/gestaltvida.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gestaltvida.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gestaltvida.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=39126"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/gestaltvida.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39126\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/gestaltvida.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=39126"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gestaltvida.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=39126"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gestaltvida.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=39126"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}